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Look After You First
If you are in business, make sure you look after yourself first. The founder of the business is the one with the vision. Even though there are others around who assist in the business, it is the founder who is closest to the vision of the business and how that vision should be fulfilled.

The founder is the driving force behind the business and the weight of the business rests squarely on his/her shoulders. As the founder you are the one with the motivation, striving to achieve your business goals and you are also the one prepared to take the risks, as well as the benefits that come from being in business.

You should know clearly what you want and you need to be flexible enough to change direction as and when required so your business does not lose any advantage. You need to learn to be a good manager and while you may listen to advice from others on any issue, the final decision rests with you. You are the boss. Don’t be afraid to let those who work for you understand this.

Remember that the boss is not necessarily right, but he/she is still the boss. Make sure therefore, that you look after yourself first because if you are healthy, strong and focussed the benefits to the business will be immeasurable.

If, on the other hand, you do not have good health, if you worry, have low self-esteem and lack motivation, the business will suffer.

Techniques for Building Self-Esteem
If you feel you have low self-esteem, try these techniques to feel good about yourself.

1. Establish good habits.
Make sure you are organised. Plan your day and be prepared for whatever may come. Make sure you have a good working environment, conducive to productivity for yourself and your staff. Take charge in every situation and teach your staff and managers to focus on their tasks and not be easily distracted.

By having goods habits, your confidence will grow and contribute to your personal self-esteem.

2. Compliment yourself.

This doesn’t mean you walk around talking to yourself, but inside you congratulate yourself when you achieve something. Don’t be too hard on yourself if you make a mistake. Accept that mistake as a learning experience and don’t make the same mistake again.

Accept that you have the skill and the drive to develop the business the way you want to. Try not to be critical of yourself, because this only destroys your self-esteem. Be realistic, but be fair to yourself. Resolve to do better next time if you fail and if you succeed, take the credit and tell yourself that you haven’t done badly at all.

3. Use learning opportunities.

Remember - no one is perfect. Unfortunately people with low self-esteem believe that other people can do things better. God has created everybody with a specific gift. That talent or gift will emerge if you allow it. If necessary, look back on your past achievements. You may be amazed to see the great things that can be credited to your efforts and drive.

They may be simple, like building a fence on your own, or taking a self-defence course and rising to the level of black belt. It may be learning to swim. It may be building toys for your grandchildren. It may be learning to play the piano or guitar. It doesn’t matter what it is. Note it all down and you may be surprised at how talented you are. Unfortunately, most of us don’t give ourselves credit.

Accept that you have ability. Make sure you make opportunities for that ability to emerge. So what if you have failed along the way. You have obviously been able to handle that failure and have pressed on from there; otherwise you wouldn’t be here today. So, remember no one is perfect. If you make a mistake it only proves you are alive and kicking.

Always remember that a child, tearing around madly being a little boy or girl and causing havoc along the way, only confirms that the child is full of life and is healthy. It is when a child is lying down without energy or without drive that you need to worry.

4. Work on boosting.

Make sure you allocate time to boost your self-esteem. When you get results in your business or in your life, tell yourself that you deserve it because you are the one that achieved. Feel good about yourself. As you achieve something, raise the bar a little higher. You then have a higher level to move up to.

Have a positive attitude. A positive attitude is not accidental. Successful people know how to create this attitude themselves. They don’t wait around for it to happen. With very few exceptions, those successful in business or other areas are happy because they have developed and maintained a positive outlook on things.

Remember, a successful person is not someone who has never failed - it is someone who won’t stay down. They get up and carry on. Eventually they will win out. Eventually they will make it. Realise that you have great potential and remember the saying: “There are no failures, only those who didn’t know that they could succeed.”