Areas to Control I-Z

Control - Problems

Control your Problems during Difficult Times

  1. Find a support group: During a time of sorrow you may not want to cope with new people or situations, so there is a great deal and comfort to be gained from a support group of people you know. This may be a group of people from your local church or club, or community who will allow you to share and talk through your experiences.

  2. Take care of yourself: Usually the general requirements of everyday life go out the window when you lose a loved one. You need to maintain a routine (of some sort) by eating regular meals, sleeping and attending to your basic needs. Be careful about taking too much prescribed medication, but if you find yourself unable to sleep, or experience severe physical and mental difficulties, talk to a specialist or your family physician.

  3. Take stock of your bills and financial obligations: During a time of distress or sorrow, it’s easy for your finances to run over your budget. It’s important to maintain your regular payments, such as insurance premiums, car payments, power accounts, etc.

  4. Don’t make big money decisions: The world is full of people who have bright ideas and many suggestions about how to spend your money, especially if they think you have received a substantial inheritance etc. Make sure you avoid any big money decisions at this time. You need to go through the grieving process and you need sound financial advice to protect your assets. Postpone any major decisions regarding money or investment for at least 6 months after the event.

  5. Ask for help: Even if you have a close circle of friends and family, if you feel you need professional help do not hesitate to request a referral to someone with expertise. Sometimes it is simply a matter of talking with the local minister, or meeting with a grief counsellor, who has experience and has seen it all before, and wants to help. If it’s a matter of the running of the business, you may have to retain the services of an accountant to help you through this trying time.

The one thing you don’t want to do is to stuff all the bills into a drawer and let them pile up for months. If you feel you cannot cope with the details of managing the business or finances, then find someone with experience to help in this area.

You may need a few months to get yourself together and allow the grieving process to pass. This grieving is necessary for your health. It won't be too long before you will be able to deal with the normal issues of life.

Control your Business Life
The continual stress from your business may be affecting your enthusiasm to the extent that your enjoyment of work and life is becoming affected. Studies indicate that even though you can mask your lack of enthusiasm about your business and also the stress, it is still visible in many ways. People can detect this, based on several things:

  • How you feel.
  • The way you think.
  • By your actions.

You need to rekindle your enthusiasm and prevent burnout.

There are a number of ways you can do this:

  1. Practise self-discipline, rather than self-indulgence. Self-indulgence is thinking about how you feel at a given moment, deciding what action to take, and then worrying about the consequences later on. Self-discipline is thinking first about the consequences and then taking the appropriate action. Self-indulgence always builds guilt within, but self-control gives you a great feeling of satisfaction and fulfilment from doing the right thing.

  2. Avoid negativity: It is very easy to get caught up in negative talk that goes on around you. Focus on the positive, because this will have a good impact on your business and personal life.

  3. Remember, you do make a difference: Keep in mind that what you do makes a difference in other people’s lives. Your employees have families who are dependent on them. This means all those families are dependent on you. The real measure of any success is the difference you make in other people’s lives. Don’t forget that what you do makes a difference.

  4. Be motivated: If you can, get hold of the motivational messages that are available on tape or video. You should constantly keep motivated and recharged, because if you don’t it will be impossible to do the same for others. Whether the message comes from your own religious affiliation or from motivational tapes or messages, from conventions or speakers, etc, it is important to renew yourself in your business life. Once you are renewed, you can help renew others.

  5. Read books by successful people: The importance of reading is unquestioned. They say you should read at least one book a month. If you are in business, it is a good idea to read books about successful people. It can be autobiographies, or biographies, or a story about a person’s life and how they built their business. If you are a religious person, read Scripture, to help renew your thoughts and your mind.

  6. Focus on your long-term vision: Roger Crawford, the author of “How High Can You Bounce” tells us that “people without vision perish”. This is confirmed by the Good Book, which says, “Without a vision, the people perish.” The short-term things happening around them bogs people down and they lose sight of the greater vision. When Helen Keller was asked what was the worst thing about being blind she replied, “To have sight, but not to have vision.” Renew your goals weekly so you are focused on your long-term goals. This will lessen the impact of any negative things that happen around you, in the short-term.

  7. Manage yourself: Learn to manage your time. Follow the above proven tactics, because they will help you renew and recharge yourself. This will help you to be more creative and rethink the various processes that are essential to be a successful business owner and employer.